It's Been a Year

Ced died one year ago today. 
 
I can't believe how quickly the year has passed and how different my life is now.  I still have some way to go in terms of the bereavement process as there are some aspects of my life that have not moved on yet, but on the whole I'm pleased with where I currently am. I love my new home, have rebuilt my business to be working virtually full time and am happy with my own company.  I have some theatre trips planned with friends and have a holiday to Cornwall booked for May.
 
I didn't want to 'celebrate' today but I did want to mark the day in some way, so I took some money to the hospital ward to pay for cakes for the nursing staff.  I plan to 'celebrate' his life with family and friends every year on his birthday - May 12th. 

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  1. Gosh, as you said, how quickly this year has flown by, and well done for being in such a good place now.
    Joy x x

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  2. You have achieved so much in a year Eileen. It must have must been hard at times and I can't believe that it has been a year already xx

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  3. The first year after someone's death is often the most difficult, I think, because of all the "firsts" we experience - our own first birthday without the loved one, the first Christmas, the first New Year, etc. At least, I know that was how it was for me after my mother passed away. In my culture, we generally wear mourning for the first year and, the Buddhists, at least, have an almsgiving to mark the anniversary of the first year. I think your buying cakes for the nursing staff was a form of almsgiving, too.

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    1. Looking back, I'd have to agree with you. That first anniversary was definitely the hardest. I didn't wear mourning at all in respect of his wishes, not even at the funeral - he wanted colour and casual clothes, so that's what I arranged.

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