My sister is busy packing for her house move and came across some old family photos which were duly delivered to me last night. I have the task of trying to put names to faces, and then to add the images to the family tree. Luckily I like a challenge!
Yesterday's Advent task was to 'be attentive to others', making eye contact and really listening to what the person is saying. I attempted this during the Zoom catchup with J but ... it needs practice, I think, although online when you can't really see or hear the other person as well as when face to face maybe isn't the best time to try this out! Today's task is to 'give myself a break'! It's all about forgetting Christmas preparations for a while and losing myself in some Me Time! I think I'll excel at this one. 😊
Some 'me time' is just what I need after the last week following a incident with a neighbour which has upset me, and which I don't think is over yet. A few days ago I answered the door to a neighbour who I know slightly, have occasionally passed the time of day with, but we've never had a proper conversation. She asked me if I was going out or was expecting visitors on Christmas Day and when I answered 'no' to both questions she said that she was going to bring a Christmas meal over to me on Christmas Day. Now I have no issues with the principle (although I'd prefer to be asked rather than told) and I like to hear that people are caring for each other in this way but, and it is a huge but, I have food allergies so it is not that simple for me. From her description this meal will include foods I cannot eat at all and other foods cooked in a way that will make me ill so it's a definite no. I thanked her for her generosity, explained about the allergies and said I'd have to decline her offer, at which point her attitude changed completely. No more Mrs Nice but very manipulative, dismissive of food allergies, and verging on aggression and bullying. I don't want to accept food which will just have to be thrown away let alone consider the consequences for me if I eat the wrong foods, but it seems that I am not allowed to say no to her! I eventually managed to end the conversation - her parting shot was that she will still be bringing over a meal! - and realised that I was physically shaking. Her change of attitude and the speed at which it changed actually scared me and I've been ill at ease since it happened. I'm hoping she will have calmed down once she's had time to think about it and will accept my answer so that there won't be a repeat, but I'm not too hopeful ... watch this space!